As
soon as I noticed one, they were everywhere. It’s happened more than once. The
first time may have been when I first got my Mustang. As I drove it down the
highway, I saw more Mustangs. Hey, the world has more than just one. The same
thing happened with my next car, and the one after that. I thought it was a
funny little car phenomenon. But it was so much more than cars.
I was not prepared
for the next phase of this. As soon as Prajna and I learned that we were
expecting our first child, suddenly I saw pregnant women everywhere. What, had
we started a trend? What was with all the moms to be around the mall?
It didn’t take
much thought to realize what was happening. They had been there all along. It
was only since we experienced it that we began to notice others in the same
condition. It happened when I drove a different car, I was aware of what I was
in and spotted more like mine. The same with pregnant women, we noticed them because
we were mindful. Later in my life, I suddenly noticed how many people wore
eyeglasses. It wasn’t that I was that blind without them, but when I started
wearing them, I became aware that there were plenty of people just like me. The
first time I got caught in the rain with them, I thought to myself, hey, lots
of other people have this problem of rain spots too. Most recently, I noticed
many other people walking with a cane. Up until just a few weeks ago, I had no
idea people even did that.
We’re really not
so different from each other. I can walk down the street and notice someone
wearing the same kind of shoes as me, lots of people with eyeglasses, and even
though my truck is an older model, I can spot another one like mine right away.
There are things
only on the outside. When I stop to think about how alike were are in visible
ways, it seems inevitable that we are a lot alike inside too.
With all the
people out there, there must be more who don’t care for raw broccoli but love
it when it’s cooked well. Someone else in the world must think the sound of
wind blowing through pine trees is the most beautiful noise in the world. I
know there are lots of people who suffer from restless leg syndrome and
tinnitus, maybe they wear eyeglasses and need to walk with a cane sometimes
too.
But then go deeper
down. How many people do I walk past everyday who have the same anxieties as
me? Who else, when no-one is around, stops and takes a deep breath, thinking:
Okay, I can do this… I hope. How many of us struggle with hurts, habits and
hang-ups that we think that no-one else in the world understands?
Imagine if one day
everything we kept hidden was displayed on a floating sign over our head that
followed us around. If would be like the day I got my eyeglasses, but for
everyone. Suddenly we would see that there are so many other people out there
who battle addictions, suffer from anxiety, feel lost or confused, and worst of
all, they think that they are alone and no-one understands. But if the day came
that everyone had a sign saying what they struggled with, would there be looks of
recognition? Would people stop and say to someone: you too?
There will never
come a day when we have these signs displaying the burdens we carry. I think
that the best we can do for now is be kind, starting with a smile or caring
word. Doing anything to indicate that we also are weighed down with our own
issues can help others connect to us. Because if I’ve learned anything on my
road to recovery, it’s that I can’t travel it alone. And another thing, once I
took that invisible sign that listed what was hurting me, and let other folks
know what was written on it, those hurts were not as strong anymore.
There are safe
places to go to where there are others who have revealed what’s on their sign
of hurts. That’s good news. But even better news, sharing the hurts with
others, reaching out and accepting help, can begin the healing.
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