I’ve cut 6 umbilical cords in my life. 5
times I’ve done it with scissors, once with a scalpel. The first time I did it,
I said 5 words that were easy enough to remember so it’s what I said each time
after. I fell into a habit. “Welcome to the world, kid” is pretty informal. But
I was tired the first time. I didn’t have time to think much. I just kept saying
it. Maybe if I thought about it I would have said something else.
There is comfort
in knowing what to do and expect. In the first years of your life that’s how it
should be. In your first few months when you have a need, it should get met
soon. When you’re hungry you get fed. When you’re uncomfortable you get
changed. As the months go by, you might begin to learn that your needs are not
always met right away. That’s part of growing up. There is a lot to learn about
growing up. It might start with the first time you are hungry and not fed right
away.
Those tiny
memories fade to the back as new experiences fill your growing mind. New tastes
are everywhere as you explore with your mouth. Some things taste good and some
not so good. You may learn that taste is just like the rest of the world. Some
new things to see and hear are nice and some are not. The same goes with faces
peering down at you. You might not know why you don’t like some of them and why
you feel some are nice. It’s okay. Your mind is growing and learning.
And one day you
will learn the devastating truth that you are not the center of the world. It
won’t dawn on you all at once. It may take a long, long time to realize that
the big people in your life have other lives too. These other lives don’t have
you as a part of them. There are big other lives of big people with work and
meetings and big people talking on telephones. There are the long legs of big
people standing around talking about things that are not about you and things
you don’t even understand and you’re left to stand and look up and listen to big
people and big words.
You slowly realize
that there is a big world besides your own. It’s the whole wide world out
there. It has loud things, barking dogs and rushing traffic. There are things
you mustn’t touch and places you cannot run. Is everything out in the world
bad? Will that clap of thunder hurt you? Can the wind blow you away? Is that
man on the street with the cigarette and the scowl a bad man? Why do the bugs
die when you step on them? Where did the cat go when he didn’t come home
anymore? When Mommy or Daddy go, will they come back?
So hold someone’s
hand when you’re scared, when you cross the street and when the wind blows so
hard that you’re afraid. It’s okay to cover your ears when the noises get to
loud. It doesn’t make the noise go away does it? But isn’t it nice to make the
sound not so loud?
There, you see?
You are learning a little about controlling the world around you. You can make it
a little quieter. You can begin to pick and choose things. And then you are
entering into a time in your life where you explore, not only your world, but
your boundaries. How far can you go? How much is too much? What can you do and
still be loved? It’s a time of learning, and it’s a time of frustration. Why
can’t you eat all the toothpaste? Why can’t you walk to the ocean? Why can’t
you hit? Why do you have to be nice?
And this difficult
time won’t last. One day you will remember how good it feels to make people
happy. One day you will want them to be friends, not just so they can like you,
but because you now know that they need friends just like you. You will start
to think about other people’s needs and feelings. And you will like knowing
that you are helping others to be happy.
All your life so
far, you will have felt love. It has grown from the day you were born when you
felt loving hands on you and you loved the feel of your needs being met. Later,
you loved seeing people you knew and doing things you liked. You loved
affection and you loved to give it.
And eventually you
learned to love in a new way. It is a love where you don’t just want what’s
best for you, but what’s best for others, for the people you love. Sometimes
that means you don’t get what you want, and it’s okay.
And all along from
the day you were born and never stopping, you were made to be loved. You will
be loved by your family, friends your creator. God made you for a reason. That
reason is that He loves you very much. You will learn more about this as you
grow. You will never stop learning about Him and His love.
But for now,
sleep. Rest and grow. There is nothing in the big scary world right now that
you need to know about. There are just two things in your world right now,
growing and being loved. Welcome to the world, kid.
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